THE TEAR IN MY TROUSERS

 

I was thinking this morning....... Last week, I went for a major Church program dressed corporately and looking sharp and soigne. I had a striped tie on a white shirt that is neatly tucked in like a capsule. On top was a bespoke blazer that made everyone give me a second glance. At the end of the program, I entered my car and left, only to discover at home that all this while everyone was admiring my front view dressing, there was a big tear on my trousers at the back. Apparently, at some point in the service, my trousers had torn without my knowledge. Hmm!!!

It got me thinking about life. Every day people see you and admire you, with some even praying to be like you. All they see is you looking stylish and chic. They do not see the tear at the back of your trouser. They fail to see the struggles, shame and pain within or behind.

You are a wife and a mother. You wake up each day, dress up and out you go looking like the proverbial Cinderella. Many women admire your life and want to be like you. What they do not know is that there is a tear in your pants behind that they cannot see. They are not aware of your secret tears. They cannot see the heartaches you have over your spouse or children. All they see is the smile on the surface.

Interestingly, while I was moving around and everyone admiring me, I felt good with myself because my focus was on my dapper looks. But the minute I realised my trouser was torn, I was overwhelmed with shame. Whatever takes your attention has you and will take a hold of you. It matters what you are looking at because your focus determines your reality. If you focus on your problem, heaviness and depression will come on you like stew on rice. Focusing on your wins and blessings will give you a smile that will make the most expensive Mary Kay makeup look like 'portorportor.'

Stop wishing you are or look like someone else. Define yourself through God's word and act accordingly. Forget the tear on  your trousers and live your best life ever. A joyful heart is good medicine but a crushed spirit dries the bones (Prov 17:22).

Stay hopeful. God's got our back.

Happy Sunday.

......Just the thoughts of a certain Wey Mey